This post has been percolating in me for a while. I've deliberated on posting it. Even though it has nothing to do with food, I am jumping in. I'm an avid watcher of Grey's Anatomy - the writing rocks, the acting rocks, the direction rocks. I love the totally flawed characters. Up to a point. And that point was well passed during the season finale.
When it comes to tv love, and sometimes love in real life, I feel like Commander Data. I have simply never understood the whole idea of unrequited love. I'm all, "what is this emotion that you humans talk about?" when I think of unrequited love. As soon as I find out that a guy I'm interested in is not interested back, he doesn't seem all that attractive. There are two overwhelming desires that I have (GET YOUR MIND OUT OF THE GUTTER) - finality and possibility. I have a desperate need to know where I stand to the point that I often start a confrontation. I have always said up front that I have feelings the other person because I just need to know RIGHT AWAY how they feel. And this leads to my desperate need for possibility. I love looking forward to things - vacations, weddings, houses. Those things need to be attainable, otherwise I don't find it fun. That leads to my immunity to unrequited love. I can't be attracted to someone that I don't see myself having a future with. Not just the whole marriage and kids thing, but the savoring of that first date where you're all excited. If I know that it won't happen since they have no interest in me, then it's hard to feel attraction to that.
So Grey's Anatomy. I love Cristina. I love Bailey. I love Addison. Meredith Grey and McDreamy? Not so much. I just don't get how you can be attracted to someone who dissed you. No matter what the reason is, and how complicated the situation, the basic fact is Derek threw Meredith away. Does the hot sex cancel that out? It wouldn't for me. But the bitter cherry on top of that ice cream sundae of woe (whoah! When did I start with the metaphors) is the fact that Mcdreamy called you a whore. Because he couldn't come to terms with his own conflicted feelings, he calls you a whore. If rejection is a dealbreaker for me, being called a prostitute is out of the ballpark awful. Why on earth would you be attracted to someone who calls you names?
You know what's attractive to me? Respect. J is seriously the hottest guy on earth because he gets me and values me AND WOULD NEVER CALL ME NAMES. I get weak in the knees when J gives me a certain look because I know that he really sees me and cherishes every part of me. It's totally thrilling to me that he chose me to spend the rest of his life with. This is why it's imcomprehensible that Meredith isn't going "fuck that shit" with Derek and making a beeline to Finn.
Thanks for indulging me. I'm at a conference so I won't be posting for the next week and a half.